Are you searching for success in all the wrong places? Use your own words and experiences to define your own success.
Success — it’s a bit of a quirky word with so many interpretations. Webster says:
Success: the accomplishment of an aim or purpose; the favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors.
Despite that “official” definition, everyone will describe success via their own path. Trying to get there – to that hazy point in our lives that we call “success” – is scary, intimidating, exciting, and challenging.
So, you’ve set your goals for success. You’ve read Internet articles into the dark of night. You’re working on your “early morning routine” that’s frequently touted as the panacea for success. And you’re trying to nix some lifestyle routines that you know aren’t helping your success: bad eating habits, careless self-care, endless hours on social media or Netflix. Searching for success isn’t working. Your business is stagnant, and you’re ready to give up
Maybe you need to quit trying so hard. Imagine that! But, if what you’re doing right now isn’t working for you, why not try something else? Consider this:
Think about criticism.
For some reason, the criticism we heard from our parents and teachers seems to linger indefinitely. Certainly longer than the words of praise. But maybe some part of those words is appropriate and on-target. Scrutinize the criticism to see if it has value.
Consider your failures.
Let those experiences teach you something. Use them to redirect.
Find your best self.
Build your confidence. Do your best work, always. Discover your zone of genius and use it whether that’s a tiny project that you know will never bring you more business, or a huge endeavor that’s certain to bring referrals and growth and set you on a new path.
Is the challenge you’re facing an opportunity in disguise?
Take a hard look at that wall and decide what it really is. Maybe it’s a detour. Or maybe there’s something better down the road. Dig out your positive attitude and decide if you can learn something from the experience. (Hint: you usually can.)
Share your passion.
Offer your gifts without wondering if you will be repaid.
Be willing to learn new skills.
There’s an abundance of sources and willing teachers to help you. Keep your brain alive!
Take a pass on wishing.
Success is not free. As with anything else, there’s a price to be paid. And it must be paid ahead of time by challenging work, commitment, and grace.
Don’t be afraid of yourself.
Don’t avoid spending time alone. It can be refreshing and enlightening if you use the hours to reconnect with yourself. Create, imagine, dream.
Don’t talk about it – do it!
Take a tip from Nike and “just do it!” There’s some research that shows talking too much about your goals before they’re accomplished can send conflicting messages to your brain. Apparently, when the words are said with enough frequency, your brain thinks it’s already been accomplished. (Who knew?)
A more down–to-earth concept, though, is that you might find that someone else just accomplished your goal while you’ve just been talking about it.
You are the only person to define your success.
Whether you’re looking for success in your personal life or your new business, it’s your definition, your goal, and your success. You’re the only one who will know when you’ve accomplished it.
Don’t let slow progress deter you.
Any step forward is progress, and all it takes is one step to move you forward each day. Don’t second guess or berate yourself because someone else moves faster. Comparing your work style to someone else’s is not helpful because you don’t know where they are on their journey.
Be happy for others and affirm their achievements.
We all like to be accepted and recognized for our efforts. Respect and approval are not finite; the more you share your happiness for someone else’s success, the happier you’ll be with your own.
Where are you on your path to success? How do YOU define it? Tell us in the comments below. And let us know how we can help you move forward on this journey.
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